This, as well, will reinforce the idea that the relations occur us bad, and we will enter a vicious circle thus: we are convinced that we do not know to be related, we did not try it and we grant opportunities less and less. It is necessary to discard this distrust. 3. ACTS OUTSIDE AS IF EASY If when we are wanted to relate to somebody we maintain an attitude trusting, we smiled and we remain relaxed, it is easier that the people with which we are show predisposed and abiertas, and the relation is fluid. In order to be able to obtain that attitude, when it does not leave to us, spontaneously, we must act as if it turned out to us simple to do it.
Our action will help to verify how it changes the reaction to us of the others and, this way, we will as much realize prejudice that we had on we ourself, like of our social abilities. 4. PRACTICES UNTIL OBTAINING IT In order to improve our level of sociability we must give foot, as a test, to different experiences from relation with different people, using ” as if we knew relacionarnos”. This way, we will be able to check and to admit that they are people with whom it is easier us to connect and other that we do not like and to that we did not like. The practice, like in many cases, even provides to us with that confidence to manage to have social opening. 5. A SOCIABILITY LOOKS FOR YOUR MEASUREMENT ” If I must get to be as sociable person as I imagine, better I remain in house solo” , some people say themselves. And she is that having very remote expectations of the reality of one same one obstruct instead of to help. We can extend our relations and stop avoiding the social situations, but what it is truly difficult to obtain she is that, overnight, we change so much that we want to be all the day with people, especially if we are people to whom rather they like the solitude. With the practice, we can be able to live calmer, without the relations mean an oppression for us, but without stopping being as we are. Which is the measurement of your sociability?