Social and professional barriers because of shyness can be overcome a shy person has to contend with many consequences of private and professional nature. He has usually less social contacts and can prevail even in professional life less well. However, these problems can be solved. Charisma and self esteem are probably the most important Tatsacheen in the successful social contact with other people. But is it possible to learn these character traits? Can you train his charisma and a pleasant demeanor? The answer is “Yes”, it is reachable. This self-confident appearance difficult voralledem kontaktscheuen people who have problems so loose with other people in interaction. Where whatever the deeper causes are of shyness, she manifests itself always in more or less conscious beliefs that shape our behavior.
If I get attention, people will immediately evaluate me. The assessment of other people is important for my life. Others People are generally hostile. I’m not smart, beautiful, funny, quick-witted enough. If I stand in the Center, I will fail are red, stutter, trembling. Loud talk is rude, attracted attention and negative reactions. When I show my affection a man / a woman, I’m rejected. Among other things, you could discover in recent years that shyness on the one hand has hereditary but equally trained on the other side items.
It is therefore not hereditary, as acts of man and every one has in itself the opportunity to work and to quell his own inhibition. Here it is important to remain true to yourself, who is trying to adjust appears far from authentic and sooner or later leads to a relapse into old patterns of behavior. Last but not least reservedness people should forgo liquor, drugs or even narcotics to overcome her appearance opposite inside. It has become shown that over a longer time interval social skills with alcohol or drug abuse fall and more common social phobias. The physical consequences to happen yet. To test if you’re at all shy and may want to do something about, answer you yourself simply following questions with Yes or no. It is unpleasant to you: to attract foreign people? to speak to a larger group? to make a call in public (E.g. train, bus)? someone to call you don’t know well? a room to enter, where already some people sit? to be the center of attention? to maintain prolonged eye contact? speak with authority figures (Chief, teachers etc.)? to enter intimate relationships? Many shy people therefore require a method to be able to defeat your shyness, without hurting their principles in consequence and bend, although dieserfalls anyway just hard really can be. Some peculiarities of our behavior, how about the uncertainty, have their reasons in our subconscious. Of course, you can deliberately make decisions and specifically change characteristics. Nevertheless, there are mostly unconscious beliefs that guide us again and again to the traditional patterns of behaviour. A process should be performed both willfully and unconsciously is therefore to overcome the shyness. You can not put beliefs, which are across stuck over a long period of time in the subconscious, overnight. Also a training over several weeks or even months is for shy people, where they can slowly overcoming their shyness. In addition to the conscious exercise methods, which prefers daytime happen on the road can be used also hypnosis sessions for the subconscious. Peter Horst